A new grad recently told a parent, “He got to choose today, so next week it’ll be my choice.”And my whole nervous system just screamed: nope! Not because they meant any harm. They were trying to teach flexibility and fairness but because this approach misses a vital truth: compromise is a developmental skill, not a moral expectation. And for neurodivergent kids, especially those with PDA profiles or anxiety, it’s a skill that comes much later, once they feel consistently safe

A parent said to me recently, “You’ve got a neurodiverse child, how do you seem so put together?” I actually laughed. Like, out loud. The...

And how we can support them with safety, softness, and co-regulation You say a simple “not right now” and suddenly your child is on the...

When you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, the world often tells you to “just take care of yourself.” As if it’s that simple. As if...

If you live or work with a child who has a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) profile, chances are you’ve heard it all: “You’re the...

If you’ve been learning about PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), you’ve probably come across the phrase “low demand approach.” But what...

If you’re parenting or working with a child who has a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) profile, you’re likely no stranger to the term...

When you first learn about PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), it’s easy to think setting boundaries might be impossible or even...

Hi, I’m Jisel, an Occupational Therapist, business owner, and mum of two incredible girls. I’m also neurodivergent. That part of me isn’t...

Hi, I’m Jisel, an Occupational Therapist, a mum, and a passionate advocate for neurodivergent families. If you know me, you know I light...